Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Conversations with a six year old
Monday, November 24, 2008
Thankfulness
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Seasons of life
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Welcome Home
Monday, November 17, 2008
Depression stole $10
Friday, November 14, 2008
old friends...
Welcome to China
I have another guest post and I'm very excited to share it. I found this blogger - or more accurately, I think she found me - just recently, so I haven't been able to explore as much of her blog as I'd like. (Just so you know, it's hard to catch up on blogs when there's so many out there to read! I had 56 new posts in my reader this morning!).
She writes about many things, particularly writing, travel and her experiences in China. What's so amazing to me about her is that she packed up and left her country just a few months after college and moved to China. Most of us pack up and move to another city or state but she moved to another country. Now THAT is stepping out of your comfort zone! She is a teacher by profession but is also exploring her Chinese heritage and writing. Her name is Kate and I hope you'll take time to visit her blog, Live Out of the Box. Her tagline is "write, travel and think beyond," and she certainly does.
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She looked down on me as if I was nothing but a pesky mosquito in her large encompassing world. She held out her hand and said something.
The words rang in my hand. Alien sounds. Fleeting notes of melodies I couldn’t grasp. I opened my mouth but no words came out that she could understand.
Suddenly she started screaming obscenities at me, lashing out with unbridled rage, shouting with such a fury and passion that went unnoticed by all the passengers in the bus.
Welcome to China.
I had gotten on a crowded bus. It was my first month in this wild country. I was soaking up every experience and adjusting to the fact that I’m an expat. To me everything was all new and great and nothing could go wrong.
Until the moment came when the bus conductor almost threatened to kill me.
Or at least that’s what I understood from the tone of her voice.
I felt so helpless. The language I came so much to depend on was of no use here. I had not yet learned the survival street skills needed to get out of this situation. I hastily gave her the correct fare and hoped that would satisfy her.
The people in the bus looked at me with a mixture of curiosity, incredulity and pity. They along with that conductor, naturally assumed I was one of them because of my Asian looks. Not one of them had the common sense to talk to me in English or tell off the conductor.
My cheeks were flaming because they were looking at me as if I was the stupidest person in the vehicle.
Who’s this Chinese that doesn’t know how to speak Chinese?
What an ignoramus!
Can’t even speak Mandarin.
She must be from the far outskirts of the countryside.
It was so unfair! They don’t even know me. They don’t even know half the truth. I had these concepts about these people being educated and supposed to know the outside world. Boy, did that give me a reality check. Have you ever had moments when you just felt so small, like a speck of dust? Like the whole world is judging you on a false assumption and you can’t even put up some sort of defense? That’s how I felt back then.
While I was nursing these open wounds, apparently the conductor felt she wasn’t through with me. No! While I was minding my own business she came back –spit foaming around her mouth like a mad dog. She screamed at me and pointed at me with twice her original fury and once again I was the center of humiliating attention. Whatever pride I had as a person was stripped away. I was treated like an animal.
So what did I do against this person who treated me like a four letter that starts with s?
I gave her more money.
Why didn’t I retaliate? Because I wasn’t that strong then. I wasn’t raised to shout back at people (apparently it’s common courtesy here). This was the first time this has ever happened to me and the first time I ever suffered culture shock, and a cruel one at that.
Shaking, I called my friend and said a lot of things. Many I won’t repeat because they were a string of dirty words so foul that came pouring out of me from my rage and anger at the unfairness of it all. I made sure to raise my voice so that everyone would get to hear it, so that everyone would know that I wasn’t one of them and that I was a foreigner and I don’t speak a word of Chinese! That they were all making a big mistake. I made sure to have eye contact with that conductor while talking but she avoided it in obstinate embarrassment.
A few months later, I realized the reason why the conductor was so mad at me was because she had asked me how many persons was I paying for (I think it was clear to anyone who would be looking that I had nobody sitting beside me) and that I was unable to answer her.
Try letting that sink in.
For all the products it distributes around the world, China is still a closed country. Many people here are ignorant even those in the big cities. Probably because most of the residents came from the poor countryside, bringing with them their hard to break habits that they think are still applicable to civilization. They get carsick. They puke in the bus and on the roads. They take a dump in big swanky malls and I should tell you, they don’t do this in the bathrooms. They allow their children to pee on the floor in the arrival section of the airport under the public eye of all those arriving from other countries (and I’ve seen this happen in Beijing). Spitting, cutting in line and hitting others whether by bike or if they’re in a hurry with not a word of apology are all part of their common culture. Whatever heritage they had was wiped out during the Cultural Revolution and the sad truth is that most of them don’t know that. The government doesn’t want them to.
They have no idea that so many of their fellowmen immigrated abroad and have a new life of their own in other countries. They’d be shocked to find out that these immigrants’ children don’t even speak Chinese. They don’t know that Southeast Asians look similar to them. Most of them have never even seen a foreigner before let alone another Asian so how else would they know that I’m one?
There are still a lot of things they don’t know.
And I’m still learning about that.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
books, books, books
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
where's the love, man?
Sunday, November 9, 2008
yet another...
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Christmas giveaways
Oh, pickles!
Thursday, November 6, 2008
You are crazy!
Have you ever felt like you were nuts? Like you just don't fit, or maybe everyone else doesn't fit?
That's because you're crazy. Just as crazy as everyone else, but a different flavor, and crazy still.
We all have this thing inside of us that causes us to think, move, and be different than everyone else. We were made that way. And so there are some things that just feel natural to us. There are some things that feel so natural to us that we wonder how in the world all these other people don't have the same feelings/insights/thoughts/wants/desires/passions/et cetera. What might feel like common sense to you is hard to grasp for another.
And that's because you're crazy.
You were made with very specific gifts, talents, and abilities inside of you. You think a fingerprint is unique? Try the whole human being. Now that's unique.
And in all that uniqueness; we still have a desire to be a part of a bigger something-or-other. There is a want and a need to belong...a yearning to be connected.
And that's because you're crazy. To the world's standards at least. Because people are afraid. People don't often like to admit that they've submitted to mediocrity. It's easy to say no to community and no to your destiny when you've already said yes to the status quo.
But maybe you are crazy. Maybe you're just crazy enough to swim upstream and find the deeper waters. Maybe you're just crazy enough to say yes to the greatness you've been called to. Maybe you're just crazy enough to trust as if you couldn't get hurt. Maybe you're just crazy enough to be a fool for glory rather than straight-laced for the crowd.
Maybe you're just crazy enough to take off your mask and be the person you've always known you were supposed to be.