Wednesday, December 31, 2008
New Year's Goal
Everyone is writing about resolutions. Well, maybe not EVERYONE, but quite a few bloggers in my reader are. I can't remember when I stopped making them. It was several years ago, mainly because I couldn't keep any of them.
This year, I resolve to... what? What is it about making a resolution that makes it so difficult to keep? I'm sure we all have something we need to resolve to do. Exercise more, eat better, quit smoking/drinking/whatever-your-addiction, build a better relationship with someone, forgive someone, give more, give less (sounds greedy, I know, but I'm sure there are people out there who give and give until they have nothing left for themselves, be it money, emotions, love, whatever), read more, write more, be more creative, spend more time with family/friends, learn to say "no", learn to say "yes", start a new hobby, finish an old project, clean out a closet, learn a new skill.
There are so many resolutions, but why do we keep it only at the new year? Just because it's a new year? The start of something new always seems to lead to wanting to change something in our lives. The promise of a do-over. The thought that this time, this year will be different. But why not each new month or each new day?
My church has Celebrate Recovery on Thursdays. I haven't been to the services - I'm blessed to not have any addictions - but I do know that some people in recovery go day by day. Before their feet hit the floor they say Thank You to their greater power, be it God or something else, for giving them this day. Maybe they have to resolve to not take that drink, or drug, or participate in whatever their addition is every day.
Why don't we make resolutions every day? Maybe we do, but don't consider them "resolutions". It's a To-Do list, or a chore list, or an "I really need to get this done today" list. I know there are task-oriented people out there who relish the idea of getting things accomplished. I like being able to mark off something on my list and having the satisfaction of completing something but a resolution hangs over my head like a dark cloud.
This year, I resolve to change it from "resolution" to "goal". And my goals will be monthly, not yearly.
In January, my goal will be to work out twice a week, which is a big step up since I haven't really worked out at all since school started in August.
Maybe in February, my goal will be to clear out some things I've collected over the years. It's tough being a pack-rat married to a non-pack-rat. Or maybe I'll step up to working out three times a week. I don't know yet; I'll decide in January.
I like this plan better than one big resolution for the whole year. I might actually be able to keep a resol- oops, I mean, goal and not break it. I encourage you to be creative in your thinking for the upcoming New Year's Resolutions, especially if you have trouble keeping them. Maybe you just need to look at it from a different angle. Write it down, email yourself a reminder once in a while, put it on a calendar, stick it to the fridge. Help yourself keep your goals and be successful.
So, what is your goal for 2009?
(wow, is it really 2009?!?)